Wednesday, November 9, 2011

who are you, really?

when i refer to my blog friends, my kids roll their eyes and say,
"mom, those are not your real friends,"  as if they were imaginary
like the ones my daughter hailey used to have (sarah and ashley.)
i understand that they are not real to them like the friends who
come in and out of my house and have been seen by my children.

sometimes i make the mistake of trying to explain, "no, they are
real.  see this one sent me a gift."

"mom, are you saying she's your friend because she gave you a
present?"  then i just give up.  but i began to wonder, "what if
none of you are who you pretend to be?"

what if, instead of a frumpy middle aged woman, i am really an
NBA star worried about not having a basketball season?

i do not play for the lakers.


"i no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know
his master's business.  instead, i have called you friends . . . "
john 15:15


Debby@Just Breathe said...

Good question! Good to know your not a NBA player.

A Tale of Two Cities said...

Don't you just feel richer having this extra layer of friends through the blogging world to add to all the '"real-world" friends whom you see each week?

I know I do!!

Meg said...

Well, I'm pretty sure I'm real. And I really do chase kids and play with way too much yarn. I hope blog friends do count, otherwise I have no friends at all! Hehe. ;)

Farm Girl said...

I am real too. I am glad you aren't a NBA player.
I know what you mean though. I have to explain who my friends are by blog titles.
I know Meg is real just because she knits zombies and my grand kids are real cute and she is married to my son.
Real friends pray for each other too. :) God knows us and our friends and He knows our friends and let us live in an age like now so we could be friends.
We are very blessed. We don't have to wait until heaven to get acquainted. :)

Sonja said...

Glad to hear you don't play for the Lakers. I'm also not a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader! :)

High Heeled Life said...

LOL...gosh I hope everyone is real - or else my head injury is much more advanced than they have let me believe.

Without BlogLand friends, I don't think I would have gotten through some of the worst days I've faced. By being able to write , it has truly been a help, to have a voice, to be heard and to get responses.

Wishing you and your children (assuming they are since I've never exchanged comments with them..) a fabulous day!! Thanks for the smile, my friend..xo HHL

Anonymous said...

I am thankful to say that I love and pray for my blog friends as much as I do "real" friends that I see in person. Blogging has given me friends from all over the country to share both the joy and sorrow with. Glad that you are among my blog friends. Sure glad you don't play ball too!!!!!

Blondie's Journal said...

I have the heart to believe that we bloggers are who we represent ourselves to be. As I read blogs I see a personality start to take shape. A picture now and then is good, too!!


Rosie said...

Oh you are so funny!!! My son came home for the weekend and I JUST HAD THAT CONVERSATION NOT 5 MINUTES hubby and son tend to say" yes, yes...really?...Hmmm" and then look at each other and roll their I can't see them??!!!
They are missing out for sure :)
Oh my dear I AM SO EXCITED... someday I hope to share that experience with my "eye rolling" boy too...YIPPEEEEE!!!!

Jenners said...

I always do wonder who people "really" are … but I think if you read a blog long enough, you get a pretty good sense of someone. it is hard to sustain this kind of stuff for a long time and not be yourself.

Vee said...

(I have similar conversations with my children and my sister and my nieces and well, anyone. It's why I am so glad to have met three of my blogging friends because now I have pictures of them taken with me. The only one who gets it is John who says that one couldn't ask for nicer friends than the blogging community I enjoy.)

Such a cute post! Let's see, who can I be? Okay, I'm really a C*IA agent. Yes, a C*IA agent in disguise as a plump, frumpy, middle-aged housewife in a nondescript little town where no one knows how to vote correctly!

Vickie said...

Well, then I feel better being me - a frumpy middle aged woman! Yes, blog friends are REAL, I can vouch for that. I talk to my family about them at times, and my husband is finally beginning to believe me!

Janette@Janette's Sage said...

Well I will just keep you guess!!!

But then again, how many of us put on a face to others each day and they think they know us????

Hope you did fine through the son felt it in Granbury Texas.

Have a Happy Thanksgiving...from one of your imaginary friends.

Jodie | Velour said...

i'm real! and i really do adore ya! you're easily one of my top 3 favorite internet besties. :) should i send you a trophy to prove it to your offspring, or would that just make it more weird? :)

Hands to Work, Hearts to God said...

How amusing, really! It's kind of hard to keep up the pretense! I think most people I get to know through blogging are aunthentic and real! Patsy from

Debbie said...

I am always talking about this blogging buddy or another to my family too. They are very real to me too, haha....What's funnier is my hubby is following along pretty well now too and he doesn't read a one. Just from me telling him. I thank God for this means to have friends ALL OVER the US and beyond. Hope you had a good day!

Joan Elizabeth said...

For years my husband got to know the various people I work with by name and personality just from stories I tell him of my day at work. He's adjusted pretty well to the same routine for my blog friends. These days I don't even have to say my blog friend Lea, he knows you by name.

Blogs are like the 'real world' in that we choose to reveal only what facets we want of ourselves. But the real us has a way of shining through, perhaps moreso when people see our 'souls' instead of our bodies in their various stages of maturity.

I actually think I pray for blog friends more because I meet up with them more regularly than my other friends.

Steph said...

I have some confusion about this myself. Maybe it has more to do with getting a hold of my own identity than anything else. But I am certainly grateful for the kind words you have shared with me in the past and for your wise and humorous posts. Thank you for offering friendship. :)

Southern Lady said...

Great post! My kids respond to my comments about my blogging friends the same way. I feel pretty real...don't you? Carla

Darcie said...

I don't think YOU could hide the real YOU....only because the real YOU shines through in each post. Thank for being my friend in blog land! :-)

Sonja said...

chuckling at the Seinfeld comment, however... I always KNOW when I have that TONE! :(

Personalized Sketches and Sentiments said...

hm...I am real too :o) haha and how fun and blessed to have met you and so many other great blog firneds through this blogworld that otherwise may not have been possible :o)
...and I love the comments left by your other real blogger friends here :o)

(I have yet to get the chance to meet up with a blog friend in person, like some others have, but I look forward to when that opportunity happens).

Blessings & Aloha!
Oh! And the theme that I seem to often be "running behind"! So, I want to be sure to stop and say thank you my friend for stopping by and for your lovely comments! Have a wonderful weekend!

Silver Strands said...

Made me laugh Lea! I suppose you're right - but it would be so much work to be an NBA player pretending to be a 50-something-year-old lady with normal every-day life situations!

Single and Sane said...

There are no frumpy middle aged women here. None. Clearly, you must really be an NBA star. Sorry the season's not looking so good.

Anne Lyken-Garner said...

Or maybe you're Brad Pitt, writing while the kids are asleep?

I know what you mean. It's difficult to explain to people - especially older people. Most younger folk do get it. They have facebook friends they've never met, and many of them get married to people they meet on the Internet.

Rachel said...

Totally and completely cracking up because I know just what you mean.

Nice to meet you Mr. Non-Laker.

Anonymous said...

I'm your real friend and thrilled to have found you and Emily. Great memories. Dog vitamins and cooking wine. Good decision on the age spots. You're beautiful.

Auntie Cake said...

In the same boat when I talk to people about my friends whom I have never met! People look at my like I am crazy... But you and I know the truth, there are WONDERFUL friends out there!

And so bummed out that you are not playing for the Lakers this season... And just a little secret, I am not really on the Real Housewives of anywhere... (thankgoodness...)