i wanted to pursue this subject a wee bit longer, because i read some
interesting comments that made me think, ouch. vee aptly said that we
are liminoids, but in my case it should probably be liminerd.
in stating that once a mom, always a mom, i should have clarified
that the role drastically changes, hence the liminal nature of it. zuzu
quoted, "mothers hold their children's hands for a while but their
hearts forever." my mother in law says, "from the womb to the tomb."
it is like a plane flight. in the beginning, i need to make most of the
decisions. only i know where i want to go, when i need to be there,
and what airline i am inclined to choose. once i board that plane,
however, most of my choices are drastically limited.
i have to sit in the seat indicated on my ticket, put on my seatbelt, and
lift or lower the chair back only when ordered. i cannot make the plane
take off, stay in the air, or land when i choose. i have to breathe lethal
air, and i may not disembark (disembark???) until given permission.
can you tell how much i HATE to fly?
hans and i made all the decisions at first, but gradually let the kids make
more of them as they matured. now that they are mostly adults, our role
is to give counsel only when asked, frequent encouragement, and rare
admonition. mostly, though we just pray, night and day, or all night and
all day. we are progressing, but only liminally.
thankfully, "His grace is sufficient for us, and His power is made perfect
is our weakness." 2 corinthians 12:7