have you ever received one of those back handed compliments
"lea, you're hair looks so pretty . . ."
then, before you can say, "why, thank you very much!"
"i mean, it's not nearly as frizzy as usual !"
the way i see it, there are a few responses to what i call having
the first is the "respond in kind" reply and has many variations
"well, fiddle dee dee! scarlett, i thought you were about to give
a sincere compliment for a change. silly old me." this one is very
another tried and true reply is the "gomer pyle":
"for shame, for shame, for shame! didn't your mama never tell
you? 'if you cain't say somethin' nice, don't say nuthin' at all!' "
this one might be fun for some, but most people don't like to be
the one i recommend though, is the one all of our mothers taught
us, taking the high road:
"oh . . ." it's important to leave a pregnant pause, because you
want scarlett to know you perceived the slight. after all, you're
not stupid. then follow that with:
"well, i always think your hair looks pretty."
ps. "in doing this you will heap burning coals on his (her) head."